The I and The R

You are not your job title. You are not the role you play at home, or the one you perform in meetings. But when the roles get loud enough, it becomes genuinely hard to tell where they end and you begin.

The I and The R — the Identity and the Roles — is a short book about that distinction, and about what happens to people who lose it.

It is the book I most often hand to clients in the first month of our work together.